Relationship Mediation – Prevent Separation of Couples
Relationship Mediation is Future Focused, no blaming, assisting the couples to find solutions to move forward together.
As a Mediator, constructive solutions can be found working closely with both couples to resolve their issues, particularly when they want to stay together. Most times it is simply talking, and effective communication between both couples.
This is regardless of whether you are in a Marriage, or de Facto relationship. Constructive communication through mediation is a practical alternative for couples who wish to stay together, work on resolving their issues and disputes within their relationship. This leads to very Positive, and yet constructive resolutions can be found through mediation by an impartial mediator.
At ADRAMS Mediation, we use New Ways Family Coaching, Mediation and Counselling practices to assist both parties. This process has proved to be very successful with far better results for the parties,and ultimately ensures that all parties are less stressed, including the children.
What is Marriage and de Facto Mediation?
Many couples are committed to trying to work through issues and have often already tried therapy.
Jo-Anne McNamara at ADRAMS Mediation seeks to mediate to help the parties by offering to assist with creative solutions. This helps to encourage practical and realistic solutions that will help develop a healthier relationship between the parties.
We find that using positive communication together with learning how to jointly make decisions definitely assists in this process. This is particularly in either Financial or Parenting decisions. Where both parties feel empowered, they can be part of find a way to redirect the relationship.
Sometimes the only reason for the breakdown of a relationship is simply being unable to communicate and find a resolution to a particular issue. Finding a resolution and solutions through Relationship mediation can keep the partnership together, and often means keeping the family unit together also. The children will benefit too.
At the conclusion of the marriage or de facto relationship mediation, Jo-Anne will help both parties to develop a definite plan and a conduct agreement for both parties to agree to follow. This is simply to address their conflict in the relationship and help them move forward together from their issues.
As a mediator I do suggest that for the benefit of both couples, that a written agreement document is created whereby both couples action what they are prepared to do to change in their relationship.
As such, I actively encourage an initial period of 6 weeks to revisit and make any changes, and we call this called a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU). This is simply an understanding between both parties as to what each person agrees to action as they work through their issues. It is not a legal binding agreement, moreover, an agreement by both people to take action to make changes towards a happier relationship.
Why Mediation vs Therapy?
Mediation and Therapy are both very different models of resolution that individuals and couples use to find ways to decrease/ minimise their conflicts, or to work through ongoing difficulties. However, these two processes are not mutually exclusive and part of a mediation agreement for example can sometimes include therapy sessions also.
Mediation for Marriage and de facto partners is a more structured format and is practically-based, inviting both parties to work together for their solutions. It looks to the future when seeking resolutions rather than revisiting the past. A mediator uses dispute resolution techniques to assist the parties to develop constructive communication and a deeper understanding of their own issues and conflicts.
During New Ways Relationship Mediation process, both couples are encouraged to realise, and work with their own solutions to the conflict, giving them tools to follow. The positive process assists the couple in gaining understanding as to how their level of engagement and communication styles impacts on the other person. Additionally, each person can gain an understanding of what actions, or behaviors acts as the trigger for negative communication.
Marriage and de Facto Mediation Sessions
Did you know that many couples who undertake this style of Mediation process, they are able to find new ways to effective and positive communication with each other? Both parties learn how to effectively negotiate and communicate with each other to find compromise. This is big change for many people who, in difficult circumstances, can work together and move forward with life decisions.
Would you like further information from Jo-Anne McNamara as to how to engage Marriage or de Facto Mediation to assist in your process of resolution in your relationship?
Contact Jo-Anne, YOUR Mediation specialist at ADRAMS Mediation Services today on 0423 561 736.
Working with our New Ways styled Mediated processes are more likely to be successful and attainable for both parties.